Cheating is a forgivable sin in a relationship but it becomes abominable if it’s done over & over again…….
It’s been a terrible week in Lagos and Nigeria at large……..
I was on the phone with an old friend over the week as we discussed the happenings in Nigeria and the brutal killing of Nigerian youths during the nationwide peaceful protest……..
Our conversation also extended into discussing our businesses, career and relationship……
He shared with me his present ordeals in his relationship.
He has been in a relationship with his partner a little over 2 years and she was the perfect match for him…..
According to him, she is beautiful, homely, career driven and a successful journalist.
They have both planned a future together. He also told me about his plans to propose to her during their vacation planned for December…..
I was excited about his decisions, it’s a beautiful thing to see young folks taking the bold step into marital journey ……..
But he wasn’t excited sharing the information with him…..
Out of curiosity I decided to ask him what the problem was and his response kept me dumbfounded for few minutes……
Daniel, do you know that in the last 2 years of my relationship I caught my girlfriend thrice cheating on me…….
She often beg me on each occasion and claim it was a mistake. But because of my love for her, I cannot imagine my life without her….
But I’m scared right now, WHAT IF SHE KEEPS CHEATING EVEN AFTER MARRIAGE?
It is unwise to walk down the aisle with a partner who constantly give you reasons to question his/her trust……..
Don’t be foolish to normalize cheating in your relationship and assume things will change when you both get married…….
A partner that makes you feel you’re not sufficient by cheating on you will never find you sufficient even after marriage……
It’s possible for your partner to cheat on you and you choose to forgive him/her but it becomes foolishness if he/she keeps up with that hurtful habit…..
Don’t walk down the aisle with him/her if you constantly feel insecure in that relationship…..
Don’t start an eternal journey with a partner who constantly feel you’re in competition with every man/woman around…….
Don’t marry a partner you constantly lose sleep over whenever he/she travels because of the fear of not knowing if he/she is cheating or not……
There are so many things to worry about in marriage, please do not include cheating in the long list.
Remember, Cheating is a forgivable sin in a relationship but it becomes abominable if it’s done over & over again